On the Hunt for Love

I don’t believe in the idea of dating apps. Frankly, I think it has created an irritable sense of what love is, and how to find it.

Rarely do we make an effort nowadays to truly get to know a person. We are on the lookout for redflags and, once we reach our threshold, we move on to the next person—without understanding why a person has certain characteristics, where their anxieties come from. What lies buried deep inside under old debris hardly sees the light of day because few do the work to dig for it.

To be fair: it’s scary. Opening up is so frightening that locking emotional baggage away is the easier solution. At least temporarily. But forming true connection requires us to let down our guards and invite people to the depths of ourselves.